How do you judge people?

If you're tempted to say you just don't, don't: you'd be kidding yourself (unless you've lived isolated your whole life and have never had any interaction, direct or indirect, with other beings; in that case, i might, perhaps, believe you).

Here is an example of how someone could judge others.

If you'd allowed someone use of your car, house or computer and, in your absence, that person had broken/lost or allowed to be broken/lost a possession of yours, that person would have two definite courses of action: to tell you what happened when you came back, or not to, in the hope you wouldn't notice or that, if you noticed later, enough time would have passed for you not to be able to point at him/her and demand an explanation.

In the first case, if the possession broken were a very important one to you, you might get angry at that person's carelessness and even tell him/her off for it. You might chide yourself for forgetting how people tend to be more careless instead of more careful with other people's property. You might decide to make sure that person is not left alone with your property again.

In the second case, and if you discovered the broken/missing object a week or two later, you'd feel the same as above, plus immediate despise for that person's lack of willingness to take responsibility for their own action. A few minutes, hours or days later, however, despise would be transformed into pity for this person and their view of the world.

You see, a person who doesn't take responsibility for their actions is unable to fully relate to others. They expect or believe perfection is possible in themselves and in others, and are thus constantly disappointed by both. We all come across disappointment at one time or another in our lives, but these people don't recover from it. They judge everyone, including themselves, inadecuate, and must thus put up appearances every minute of their lives. They feel alone and live in a world where appearance is more important than reality, with the consequence that they can never solve the real problems, neither with themselves, with others, or with their surroundings. This condition can lead to fatal consequences, sometimes not only to themselves, but also to their whole community.

The good news is, many times there's plenty of opportunity to face reality and minimize damage.

The bad news is, many times it's too late already, and damage is irreparable.

But that's precisely the point: it's always like that! If one is unable to deal with that reality... Well, we may be in trouble.